Mediation is a private and confidential process in which parents, with the help of a neutral third party, can negotiate some or all of their disagreements, especially about the best parenting plan for their children. Except when ordered by a court, it is entirely voluntary. Normally the only authority we have as mediators is that given to us by the parties. While we may offer information and use various conflict resolution techniques, we do not give advice or attempt to force agreement. Instead we work hard to help the parties find common ground and address all relevant issues. If both parties consent, we may draw up a Memorandum of Understanding outlining their agreements. This is not a legal document. To be binding, the final document must be prepared by an attorney selected by the parties and filed with the court.

Mediation is especially economical and effective when the participants’ conflict is mild to moderate. Parties with little conflict may not need a mediator, and parties with more serious conflict will benefit from working with a Parenting Coordinator. Those in extreme conflict may not be able to work together at all, in which case the court will have to determine what is best for their children.